Caution About Confession in Small Groups

Having been a small group leader I get cautious when participants begin revealing their struggles in open confession. It is not that confession is a bad thing; to the contrary, it is a spiritual discipline and beneficial. But I find that some people get caught up in the excitement of sharing or feel obligated to “spill” when others disclose their lives. This can lead to revealing things that should remain personal or that need special attention away from the group.

1. An issue may not need public attention. Simply put, everybody doesn't need to know everything. Some issues may be deep-seated problems that are better handled privately. Besides, one-on-one sessions allow for progressive inner healing that can one day be shared openly. When these heavy matters surface the leader should be tactful and turn the topic and follow up with the person in a private place to address the issue.

2. Confession might result in hurt from others. Unfortunately, there are those who have not learned that the spiritually mature are to bear the burdens of the weak. These people will condemn others. It could happen in direct confrontation among the group or, worse, by spreading the issue to others outside the group resulting in irreparable damage.

3. The group may not know how to respond. This is especially true for bombshells. Confessions can shock a group and leave it not knowing how to handle the person or the issue. The unexpected can create a new dynamic in the group with the threat of leaving the weak out in the rain. Again, this is unthinkable for a spiritual group, but it can and does happen and depends on the maturity of the group.

4. The issue may require professional counsel. The group leader should know when to suggest pastoral counseling and even psychological treatment.

The small group format can be the beginning of radical healing for people. Confessing struggles in groups is not a bad thing and can be helpful when there is genuine unity and spiritual support. Still, it is best to be cautious about it in order to safeguard those who are weak.